In two weeks time I'm going to Colombia to meet the 'in law's' (not funny yet is it) and to see the wonderful country Fernando is from.
I have to admit I'm a little bit nervous. I'm sure it'll be a great holiday but I'm still nervous to meet his family. I tend to come across as a bit 'german' at times. Maye a bit harsh but I don't intend to be.
Ah well, I'm sure everything will be ok right?
He's from a small town called Tunja which is about two hours from Bogota. The whole district is called Boyaca and from what I hear it's very boring but they also have amazing landscape and beautiful natural mud baths around there - am definetely giving those a try!!
19 Nov 2009
9 Nov 2009
Rough patch
Sorry I haven't been around for a while, I've been trying to patch up things in my relationship and haven't quite bothered checking my emails too often. Sheer lazyness really.
As per my previous marriage blog things are going a bit up and down at the moment. Fernando and I went through a bit of a rough patch straight after the marriage proposal and are now trying to find out way back to each other.
No one ever said this was going to be easy but it does literally take every ounce of energy from both sides and a strong will to get out of a bad patch in a relationship doesn't it?
I think he has come to terms with the fact that I'm not ready and it has nothing to do with me not loving him enough. Still he holds a bit of a grudge against me.
We have booked a flight to spend Christmas in Colombia with his family - who already knows we're not getting married. Apparently they knew before I did as well so not sure his mum will be too impressed with me.
Add to that that his sister is in the process of getting a student visa for London and I recently decided it might not be the best of ideas for her to live with us seeing as we've been arguing quite a bit and it might make her feel uncomfortable and I don't want to look like a complete monster. Plus in theory it would be much better for her to live with english people so she'd be forced to speak english as opposed to going to school 3 hours a day and then coming to a spanish speaking home.
My comment was NOT a good idea apparently. Now he thinks I have a problem with his sister too. And who knows what his family is thinking of me right now. Guess I have to wait and see until the 3rd of December when we fly to Colombia!
As per my previous marriage blog things are going a bit up and down at the moment. Fernando and I went through a bit of a rough patch straight after the marriage proposal and are now trying to find out way back to each other.
No one ever said this was going to be easy but it does literally take every ounce of energy from both sides and a strong will to get out of a bad patch in a relationship doesn't it?
I think he has come to terms with the fact that I'm not ready and it has nothing to do with me not loving him enough. Still he holds a bit of a grudge against me.
We have booked a flight to spend Christmas in Colombia with his family - who already knows we're not getting married. Apparently they knew before I did as well so not sure his mum will be too impressed with me.
Add to that that his sister is in the process of getting a student visa for London and I recently decided it might not be the best of ideas for her to live with us seeing as we've been arguing quite a bit and it might make her feel uncomfortable and I don't want to look like a complete monster. Plus in theory it would be much better for her to live with english people so she'd be forced to speak english as opposed to going to school 3 hours a day and then coming to a spanish speaking home.
My comment was NOT a good idea apparently. Now he thinks I have a problem with his sister too. And who knows what his family is thinking of me right now. Guess I have to wait and see until the 3rd of December when we fly to Colombia!
6 Oct 2009
Marriage
About a week ago I think Fernando asked me to marry him. Apparently he already mentioned to his parents that he was going to ask me. (I haven't met them yet as they live in Colombia and don't want them to hate me)
Instead of the happy response he was probably waiting for I panicked and worked myself up so much that I had an asthma attack. I currently have a cold so probably had to do with that too.
I have no idea why I reacted this way and I feel very bad for making him feel bad but I just don't feel ready for it I guess. I've never given marriage much thought but it's obviously an idea on his mind which makes me panic as we seem to be going in opposite directions.
I'm not sure I want to get married. Ever.
Instead of the ecstatic bride to be I turned into the commitment phobic guy! What is wrong with me???
Clearly the situation at home is currently a bit 'tender' if you will. I'm quite thankful for my housemate at the moment who doesn't have a clue of what's going on but breaks the tension when she's there.
Instead of the happy response he was probably waiting for I panicked and worked myself up so much that I had an asthma attack. I currently have a cold so probably had to do with that too.
I have no idea why I reacted this way and I feel very bad for making him feel bad but I just don't feel ready for it I guess. I've never given marriage much thought but it's obviously an idea on his mind which makes me panic as we seem to be going in opposite directions.
I'm not sure I want to get married. Ever.
Instead of the ecstatic bride to be I turned into the commitment phobic guy! What is wrong with me???
Clearly the situation at home is currently a bit 'tender' if you will. I'm quite thankful for my housemate at the moment who doesn't have a clue of what's going on but breaks the tension when she's there.
5 Oct 2009
Sick
Can't believe my last post was on the 14th of September, I've been gone for ages! How time flies, haven't been up to much since I finished work.
My cousin from Argentina came to visit with a friend and we got reaccquainted which was nice.
And I've been sick 3 times in the past three weeks wich is now kind of taking it's toll on me. No swine flu though so that's good. Just a regular old cold. Well three of them to be precise.
I've been to the doctors and had some blood tests done to see if there's something wrong but nope. My immune system should be up and running for my age. Doesn't seem to be working too well though for some reason.
I eat healthily, I drink lots of water so not quite sure why I'm constantly sick. It makes me feel down. It's a vicious circle, I feel weak because of my cold and in turn my mood goes down so by the end of the day I'm glad the day is over - even if I haven't done anything.
Hopefully this will be over by the end of this week...
My cousin from Argentina came to visit with a friend and we got reaccquainted which was nice.
And I've been sick 3 times in the past three weeks wich is now kind of taking it's toll on me. No swine flu though so that's good. Just a regular old cold. Well three of them to be precise.
I've been to the doctors and had some blood tests done to see if there's something wrong but nope. My immune system should be up and running for my age. Doesn't seem to be working too well though for some reason.
I eat healthily, I drink lots of water so not quite sure why I'm constantly sick. It makes me feel down. It's a vicious circle, I feel weak because of my cold and in turn my mood goes down so by the end of the day I'm glad the day is over - even if I haven't done anything.
Hopefully this will be over by the end of this week...
14 Sep 2009
My last day
Today is my last day at work. I got home at 10PM last night, worked 14 hours straight. I fell asleep with my dinner in my lap!
Am now at work finishing off some paperwork and that's it! All done and dusted.
I had a great time! Met some great people, realised how much more I have to learn at work and in life and ran around arranging things till my calves hurt from walking in flat shoes.
Since I don't have internet at home I will probably be a bit slow posting in the following weeks but I will be reading your posts. :)
Bye bye!
Am now at work finishing off some paperwork and that's it! All done and dusted.
I had a great time! Met some great people, realised how much more I have to learn at work and in life and ran around arranging things till my calves hurt from walking in flat shoes.
Since I don't have internet at home I will probably be a bit slow posting in the following weeks but I will be reading your posts. :)
Bye bye!
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